Egg donation can be a truly beautiful thing. It’s a way for women who are struggling with certain types of infertility to carry a child, and allows a fertile woman to give the gift of building a family to another person.
But just like IVF, hormone treatments, or other treatments, there is a lot to consider before pursuing egg donation.
Unfortunately, there are a lot of myths about egg donation floating around out there, and I want to set the record straight once and for all.
Here are the top five myths about egg donation:
1. Egg donation decreases the donor’s chances of conceiving a child someday.
No way, José! There is no evidence to suggest that donating your eggs has any effect on your future fertility. A woman’s body releases eggs every month and it makes no difference whether they are lost through menstruation or through egg donation. Many egg donors have gone on to successfully have children of their own after the donation procedure.
2. The egg donation process is painful.
Every body responds to the donation process differently, but it’s rarely very painful. The procedure itself is done while the donor is under anesthesia and lasts around only 15 minutes. No incisions are made. Some donors report mild to moderate pain on the day of the procedure, similar to menstrual cramps. But it doesn’t last long — very few say the pain even carries over until the next day.
3. My husband will be more attached to the baby if the egg is fertilized with his sperm.
In many cases of egg donation, a donor’s egg is fertilized with the male partner’s sperm, so the resulting child will be genetically linked to the male partner. But a genetic bond in no way relates to an emotional bond! As adoption studies show, the bond between parent and child has little to do with biology or genetics and everything to do with how the child is cared for and loved. Assuming you and your partner operate as a team, there is no reason that any genetic factors should come into play when it comes to your attachment with your child.
4. Donors just do it for the money.
While egg donors do receive compensation, very few donate purely for financial reasons. There is a lot of work involved in becoming an egg donor, including rigorous health, genetic, psychological, drug, and other background checks, and a round of injections to stimulate egg release. In short — it’s too much work for someone who simply wants to make a quick buck! A study by the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology found that only 10% of egg donors were motivated by purely financial reasons, with 46% motivated by pure altruism, and 32% a combination of the two.
5. An egg donor might want to be a part of the child’s life or even go after custody.
Many women are concerned about this, but they don’t have to be! Egg donors aren’t interested in becoming mothers themselves (at least not right now). They simply want to help women struggling with infertility to experience the joy of motherhood. Just because they have a genetic attachment to the egg does not make the child “theirs” or give them any sort of parental rights. Additionally, the donation process is anonymous, just to add in another privacy step.
There is so much more to say on the topic of egg donation! If you’re considering donating your eggs, or want to learn more about becoming a recipient, let’s go through all the facts at an appointment. Call us anytime at 717-747-3099 or click on the button below.